So, you’ve always been strong and resilient, and perhaps more accustomed to pushing through pain than others around you. Why would you want to be anything other than strong and solidly centered in your life?
Except, with this grief, you can't figure out how to do it any more.
Sure, after it happened, there were moments of reprieve, times when things seemed reasonably okay, but then waves of grief and loss would hit you harder than you were really prepared for. If you're being honest with yourself, you recognize that over time, one painful memory after another, the heaviness of your loss became something that was harder and harder to carry. Isn't it supposed to get easier over time? Doesn't 'time heal all wounds?'?? So why is this getting worse and harder and heavier and darker?
One of those recent moments? Uh - wow! That was a depth of sorrow you didn't quite see coming.
You're finding that your feelings of grief and loss are getting to be so overwhelming, you're worried about whether or not you are going to be able to hold on to the semblance of normalcy you crave. You've likely heard people say they don’t understand why you're holding onto this. People are telling you to move on, you've been like this long enough - this has to change. A part of you wants to be able to move on, and a part of you just can't seem to let go. You don't know how to do this. You often feel like you were never supposed to have to figure this out, anyways. This wasn't supposed to happen.
It's getting overwhelming enough that you'd let go if you just knew how, right? People who haven't experienced such profound loss don't get it. You don't want to be stuck in sorrow - you want to reconnect with the joy and meaning in your life. You just can't seem to make it happen despite your best efforts.
You're ready for this pain to lessen. Permanently. Before something, like your mental health, the other relationships in your life, your job, totally breaks and doesn't come back.
There's a lot happening inside of you.
Our staff of psychologists, social workers, and registered psychotherapists provide support to navigate through your toughest moments of grief and loss with our weekly therapy sessions. If you want to get to the root of this and find a path towards healing, we want to work with you. Once your intake process is completed, we recommend that you commit to at least 6 – 8 sessions to ensure you can 'dig in' and make the progress you need for lasting change. Whaddya say?
• You book a free consultation or a full-length first appointment with us by sending us a message or phoning our virtual admin staff. • Once you and your therapist decide to work together, you and your therapist will get really curious about all the things that are going on that are related to your anger problems. • You and your therapist will review your personal history and loss history for meaningful links. • You and your therapist will work on building enough trust that you feel comfortable telling him or her all the things about your inner life that are relevant. • You will explore how your life experiences, thoughts, and situational specifics, particularly your loss(es), are landing within you. • You will work on strategies to help soften the sharp edges of your grieving, while preserving your happy and poignant memories • You will start feeling better after a period of putting in the work (usually about 8 sessions, but sometimes more is needed in cases of traumatic or complicated grief and loss), IF you're being honest and transparent with your therapist. If not, it'll take longer.
• Are you committed to making a change in your emotional life and your relationships? • Are you willing to invest in yourself financially and have the funds to give this a fair shake? • Will you give yourself the time you need to turn around a challenging problem? • Realistically, only you can decide if this is right for you. • If you're not sure about who you might like to see, that's ok! An option is to book a free 15-minute consultation to get a "feel" for the therapist of your choosing?
Need a bit more before you're ready to launch? Here are some articles about What to Expect, and how your emotional regulation and quality of life can benefit from our services.
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